About five years ago, I was invited to a local writers club meeting by my father’s co-worker. It was a day during December and the club was having a guess speaker, Ted Lange(imdb.com). Ted’s most known for his character on The Love Boat(1977), as the friendly bartender Issac Washington, and I really paid attention to what he said. He was funny and personable, but his message was that he became a writer to give himself work. He said that it was hard for a black man to break into the business and that’s why he became a writer.
I took that to heart, and as I write this tonight, I keep thinking that everything that I’ve been doing for the last several months, and more so now since my last months classes, is that I’m creating that experience. I’m starting to grasp the concept of marketing myself on social media, I’m learning programs that I will need to have experience in to get jobs in the field that I want to get work in. So, that’s my advice to anybody frustrated in searching for work, or getting experience. It might take time, but find a way to do it yourself. We live in world that doesn’t want to give most people a hand, and that’s why reading books, researching, and doing are the keys to getting the success that you want.
I remember not that long ago, that was my thought process, “how am I going to get another job without the experience they’re looking for?” It’s a scary thought, but as I’ve grown in knowledge and determination, I’ve discovered that there are ways too find a way to learn those skills. A good start is looking online for classes, or workshops for gaining that knowledge. Another thing is too look at the local employment agency. They should be able to point you in the right direction.
I’m adventuring into the world of owning my own business, and I’m blessed with the people who are involved with the process. They will keep me grounded, and we work well together. The scary part is that I know that there will be failure along the way, but that’s the other way to gain experience. As I’ve seen stated in books, magazines, and various other places, failure is a teacher, and if you keep failing, you learn how to not fail as bad. It’s also a great way to teach you what works and doesn’t work.
The best thing to do is be cautious, but don’t be afraid to succeed, and don’t let failure stop you either. We as people tend to be our own harshest critics, and in general, we also get in the way of our own success. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times I messed up something because I got into my own head, and had self doubts. That’s why we tend to sabotage ourselves.
The other thing I have to say about this is do what makes you happy. As cliche as it is, there is a reason for that. I listened to everybody else for so long and I was miserable for doing what I was “supposed” to do and it almost cost me my life. Wouldn’t you rather feel happy about chasing your dreams then be stuck in the same spot in life? Yes, I won’t lie, it would be much easier to just do what I love and not be concerned about anything else, but I have a family to provide for, but I was given the motivation to prepare for a different life when opportunity came and gave me the chance to go for something I had want to do for most of my adult life, and most of my life in some way that, evolved into wanting to make movies. Remember that survival is the most necessary part, but going for the dream is important too. While it might seem crazy, the skills that I’m learning in film school, are things that I can apply to the “safe” jobs as well. So there is a back up plan in place, and it would still involve what I want to do in life.
I will leave a final note before this thought train leaves the station: Be kind to each other, there are too many negative energies out there wanting to bring you down. they want people to be down on their levels and can’t stand other people’s success. Don’t add to that problem. Try to be positive, and keep that mentality. If you wake up and look in the mirror in the morning, tell yourself that you’ll have a good day. Positive affirmations work far better than I ever thought, and it generally keeps me going in a positive direction.